HOW Ironic...
I had a recent uproar at my home & the MOM condoned this behaviour everyday...
with many warm cuddles and more 'on & on' coddling...
She says it is cause her DAD is away!
Yes! I grant you the child likely does miss her DAD...!
BUT it is NOT the DADs not being here, at time of p.u. time or even at drop offs...
The child goes out of control, ( not at all when it is just me)
The child LIKES ME!
In fact as soon as the child sees the MOM she STARTS with the drama!
She starts everytime because the MOM has never said firmly,
'Enough of that" or NO crying please...( & use the child's name)
Take it from the real Super Nanny! (not I, lol)
TELL YOUR CHILD WHAT YOU WANT!
(this does not have to be mean or degrading to them!
Just a simply & clear command...
that crying & screaming and carrying on, is not acceptable or allowed!
I gave her NOTICE based on OTHER ligitimate reasons. (Parent got upset & instantly disliked me!
...what's new ?)
Anyhow, I got lucky....I had two other families request F/t service in January! Great News!
which also gave me a legitimate & legally done with 30 days NOTICE - OUT!
I am more than fair....& general crying is NOT a prob....
Clearly this MOM was NOT parelleling my child rearing/caring skills!
therefore when this is obvious, it is SMART of the daycare operator to provide a legitimate NOTICE before things become worse...as this care arrangment no longer worked for ME or the others who have had this type of experience! Most kids stop crying after a few days or Do not cry...at all.
Her crying etc., was being RE-enforced as a 'good' thing to the child.
It was getting to regular & rediculous & yes 'out of control'!
This also left the other daycare childen waaay stressed & upset, & at times copying her crying.
Last straw, the child was hallering and the MOM wanted to carry her it into the daycare at 12 NOON,
while the others were hungry & awaiting their lunches!...
Normally, I'd allow access to the actual daycare room, N/p!

BUT that time!!!!! This would have set-off the hungry infants, as they were being good in their chairs whilst I was at the door..remember it's was 12 NOON time!
I told her NO & that I am not hiding anything in there!
"Go see for yourself" ( proper # of kids etc)
but I will NOT allow you to carry your child INTO the daycare like that!!!!!!!!!
What am I to do have 5 kids crying & then the MOM will leave...
GREAT!!
Parents maybe prehaps do not realize ONE crying child could possible make them all cry... at the same time!
By cuddling her and coddling her....The Child ONLY anticipates the cuddling & caudling!
I know this is a 'habit'....that the MOM has instilled in her child; as she cryes and hollers when (only) sees the MOM!
If I tell her THAT ....I would said you are re- enforcing her behaviour...
I would have received her NOTICE! lol
This way I did it....as I had a ligitiamate NOTICE reason!
& was not because I do not like them , as it is the MOM NON re-action, I don't approve of!
AS the little girl was nice when the MOM was not around & the MOM was nice too, just a little out of touch with reality and her child!